How to Forgive Another Person for Past Hurts

How to Forgive Another Person for Past Hurts

No one gets through life without being hurt by another person. We all have experienced the pain of a thoughtless remark, gossip, or lie. If you have experienced an unhappy marriage, the devastation of infidelity, or suffered physical or emotional abuse, you know what it feels like to be hurt. It is tempting to hold on to these feelings and build a wall of safety around yourself, but the best way to heal is to forgive the person who hurt you.

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Choosing How You Feel

Choosing How You Feel

Have you ever thought about all the times we make choices in any given day?

I’ve spoken about judgments before, and how to open our awareness to it so we can move into a place of less stress and anxiety, but what about actually choosing how we feel?  We see it all the time. Choose happiness!! Choose love!! But sooo many times, the response (and understandably so) is WELL, THAT'S GREAT BUT HOW???? ....

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Using the Skills Deck

Using the Skills Deck

"Flourishing Beyond Fear: Practical Skills for Challenging Moments" contains 42 real-life, easy-to-learn and use coping skills and strategies along with 7 daily affirmation cards with a short instruction on the back of each card. This allows you to tuck a card in your purse or pocket and carry it with you throughout the day to use as a reminder as needed. You can pull a card randomly, reach day, or choose a specific card you want to learn more and practice. In a moment of fear or stress, you can also choose a card that's whatever you feel you need in that moment. It really is quite versatile and can be a tool you use as you need and want! There aren't any hard and fast rules. Life is chock full of those enough!

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Why AM I So Anxious?

Why AM I So Anxious?

Every human feels anxiety on occasion; it is a part of life. All of us know what it is like to feel worry, nervousness, fear, and concern. We feel nervous when we have to give a speech, go for a job interview, or walk into our boss’s office for the annual performance appraisal. We know it’s normal to feel a surge of fear when we unexpectedly see a photo of a snake or look down from the top of a tall building. Most of us manage these kinds of anxious feelings fairly well and are able to carry on with our lives without much difficulty. These feelings don’t disrupt our lives.

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Let's Look at Common Causes of Stress

Let's Look at Common Causes of Stress

Stress has become a factor in our culture in the last 20 years partly because of the very things that were originally designed to make life less stressful. Conveniences such as ATM machines, microwave ovens, computers, cell phones, and fax machines have made life easier in many ways, but they also have woven an expectation of instant gratification into our culture. This can cause a constant flow of stress for some.

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Using an Intention Box with Reiki or Without

Using an Intention Box with Reiki or Without

Do you have an intention box?

If not, an intention box is a very easyto use to help in working towards your goals and desires. It helps keep us focused and also aids in helping us stay positive, grateful and directed during the process of reaching for our dreams.

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Depression, Therapy and Medications

Depression, Therapy and Medications

Have you ever wondered if medication is a "must" if you go into counseling if you've been feeling kind of depressed? A lot of people do, and they worry about it. In our opinion, it really depends. We believe that the least invasive, but yet most effective, means is the best approach.

And, what the studies have shown may surprise you...

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Anxiety: Taming the Terror

Anxiety: Taming the Terror

Anxiety in, and of itself, by its very nature creates more anxiety. One brief anxious moment can easily slip into another...and another...until you are experiencing a full-blown panic attack. Fear begets fear. It can be a vicious, uncomfortable cycle that you just can't seem to get away from, but the good news is, you can.

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Managing the Stress in Your Life

Managing the Stress in Your Life

Look for ways to let go of tension and anxiety. Meditation and progressive relaxation are two valuable ways to regenerate and refresh yourself. You can purchase meditation and relaxation audiotapes or record your own. This is especially important because your health and long life depend on minimizing stress and achieving a sense of balance and well-being.

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Motivation Within

Motivation Within

Have you been wanting to try counseling but just couldn't find the motivation? Or, have you tried counseling and expected everything to get magically better in a session? Have you looked everywhere for a "fix" but couldn't find one? Sometimes, the answer lies within yourself. Sometimes, not always, we have to look deep within and make the change. Feelings don't necessarily launch actions. But actions can almost always impact feelings. Sometimes, we get this backwards.

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Do you Second-Guess Yourself?

Do you Second-Guess Yourself?

Counseling can help us hear ourselves, learn to trust ourselves and pay attention to the most important person...us! You know that little voice inside your head? Or that feeling that you get in the pit of your stomach? Or maybe the feeling in your chest that comes at certain times? Well, are you listening?

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Judge For Yourself

Judge For Yourself

In counseling, sometimes we practice the non-judgmental stance. It is an eye-opening experience for most people! Counseling can provide the means to see things more clearly that we tend to do routinely and without much thought.

Do you practice the constant state of judging yourself? And, has anyone ever said to you, "Oh, you shouldn't feel that way!" Or maybe, "That's a terrible thought!"? I'm not talking about anything catastrophic here, I'm talking about everyday kinds of thoughts and feelings.

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Setting Your Intentions

Setting Your Intentions

Do you have an intention box? If not, and intention box is a very easyto use to help in working towards your goals and desires. It helps keep us focused and also aids in helping us stay positive, grateful and directed during the process of reaching for our dreams.

I fill mine not only with my intention slips and infuse it with Reiki (you don't have to be a Reiki practitioner to use this tool) but I also fill it with crystals, seashells, dried flowers, and anything else I feel guided to use. It's like a box of dreams written as though they've already come true!

I want to share with you step-by-step directions on how you can make your very own intention box with or without Reiki! So, are you ready to create more of what you want in YOUR LIFE? Here we go:

  1. Find a special wooden box, crystal or ceramic bowl with a lid, or you can even use a shoe box. Just let your heart guide you to what feels right.
  2. If you practice Reiki, you can write the Reiki symbols on slips of paper and place them in the bottom of the box. If you don't practice Reiki, you can skip this part. It's OK! Your intention is the MOST IMPORTANT part of this whole process. Some people like to use photos or cut out pictures from magazines or even ones they found online that reflect what feels loving and positive to them.
  3. On separate pieces of paper, write each intention on their own slip of paper. The key is to write the intention AS IF IT ALREADY HAPPENED. So, for example, instead of, "I would like to be able to pay my bills more easily" - write: "My bills are paid and financial abundance comes to me easily".
  4. If you practice Reiki, you can also put the symbols on the paper. But, it is not necessary.
  5. Include on your slips a statement of GRATITUDE.
  6. Use your intuition to guide you on what feels right. There is no right or wrong or rules. This is your VERY SPECIAL INTENTIONBOX!

Now sit with your beautiful box (some people also like to decorate the outside of the box...again, use your own intuition and what feels good to you), and hold your box between your hands. Send your box either Reiki or send it your strong intention that whatever is in the box will come along with much gratitude from your heart.

Keep your intentions positive, loving, upbeat! You can visit with your box everyday or a few times a week and sit with your box for 5-10 minutes re-sending your intention and gratitude.

That's it! Simple!

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A Space of Your Own

A Space of Your Own

Do you have a special space? Something that is just for you? You don't need an entire room, although it would be great if you did , even just a space within a room is great! And for some people, counseling can provide that special place as they are nurtured and supported within our walls.

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Healing Your Inner Child

Healing Your Inner Child

There is a lot of talk lately about healing your inner child. It's usually followed by the question, "HOW do you heal your inner child?" This is a subject that a lot of people ask about in counseling. Some wanting to use their counseling experience to venture back in time and others, not so much.

Aside from counseling, there are ways you can help yourself heal your inner child.

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